In general, parents make mistakes in forcing their children to do what they are weak at and stopping their children in doing what they are good at. It seems natural in Asian culture. BUT IT IS WRONG!!!
Let's take my son, JOSEPH, as an example. He is weak in BM, my wife and I will usually force him to go for BM tuition and making sure that he will spend double the time and effort in studying BM.
After one full year of living in miserable life, do you think JOSEPH would do better in BM?
The answer is NO.
WHY?
It is because we are ignoring JOSEPH's emotional feeling and his capabilities.
As according to Haward Gadner, a Harvard School psycologist, he mentioned in his book "The Frame of Mind" that every kids are different Emotionally & Intelligently.
It is indeed common sense that when we do something that we are really good at, we will feel joyful and happy, in turn we become productive. BUT ironically that my wife and I are forcing JOSEPH to do what he is weak at, definitely he will not perform.
Finally, I realize that my wife and I have to alter our mindset to allow JOSEPH to focus on the subjects that he is strong with, i.e. BC, BI and Math and we encourage him to stretch to the limit to get himself listing in the SCORE A's Nationwide Honor List and he did actually get his name listed for several times.
I can see his learning attitude changed dramatically and his passion in doing the SCORE A e-learning program and even fight against his sister for his turn to do SCORE A.
Dear Readers, you might ask: How about his BM?
My answer to you is: "LET IT BE."
I can assure you that when JOSEPH's momentum in learning starts to move, he will automatically uplift his confident in boosting up his standard in BM.
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